Taking On the Role of Caregiver for Your Aging Parent
There are 24 million Americans who hold down a career, raise a family, and act as caregiver to their aging parent. The first two roles are generally manageable, even simultaneously, for most people — but when the role of caregiver is added, something has to go. Unfortunately, that something often turns out to be the well-being of the caregiver themselves.
Instead of neglecting yourself in the name of responsibility to everyone and everything else, let’s look at some ways you can utilize all of your life roles to gain some much-needed relief.
Ask Your Employer About Aging Parent Elder Care Services
Did you know that your employer may offer caregiving services or elder care? Even if you haven’t heard of such a program, it’s always worth asking — especially if there’s a chance some of the caregiving pressure could be taken off your shoulders.
Additionally, don’t forget that the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) was created for situations exactly like this. FMLA allows 12 weeks of unpaid leave to eligible employees (although it bumps up to 26 weeks if the person being cared for is a covered veteran or servicemember). While you won’t earn your regular paycheck, your job will be waiting for you when you return to work — and that security is priceless during turbulent seasons of life.
Let Your Children Help
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, children can sometimes feel like an enormous challenge in your day — but have you thought about letting them help out by connecting with their grandparent via computer?
Today’s children — even the very young ones — are extremely good with technology and can Skype, FaceTime, or Google Hangout with the best of them. A video chat between your child and your aging parent can give each of them a chance to reconnect, even if an in-person visit isn’t possible. It can also give you a few minutes to breathe while they catch up!
Don’t Forget About You!
Without taking the time and space to recharge, it’s impossible to be an effective caregiver — especially with all the other demands in your life. Caregiver support groups, whether in person or online, can provide a sense of camaraderie with others in your situation.
Isolation and exhaustion are your greatest enemies as you strive to care for your aging parent; don’t let these things keep you from being the loving, dedicated caregiver you want to be. Take steps to find community, and be proactive about giving yourself the rest and refreshment you need.
Bradford & Holliman Is Here to Help!
From long-term care planning to guardianship and conservatorship, Bradford & Holliman can help you navigate the world of aging parent elder care. We offer a comprehensive approach and capable, compassionate advice. Contact us today!